I worked for fifteen years in Southern California Law Enforcement. During those years I worked Night Patrol, SWAT, Narcotics (Raids as well as UC work), Gang Unit, and any dangerous detail I could find. I was in alot of shootings. But I pointed guns and yelled at many more bad guys than I ever shot. So in this thread I will discuss the gunpoint dialog...or what to say...and whether you should say anything at all.

If he has already shot people, and there is no doubt about what is happening, skip all of this and just shoot him. You will thank me when you are 80. So will your yet-to-be-born kids and grandkids. And so will the supermodel –wife you have not yet met. What in God's earth is so hard to understand about that I do not get.

First, I want to point out that unless your adversary is some criminal incarnation of Mister Rogers, he is not afraid of you. He has contempt for you and everything you hold important. And more...your life and that of your family means absolutely nothing to him. That is the guy I want you to prepare for, and not the wishy-washy pseudo thug with the saggy pants halfway down his ass and the sideways hat babooning about what a bad ass he is, while he looks for an excuse to break contact and leave with his balls still in his sack.

If the bad guy capitulates and either breaks contact and runs away…or surrenders, it is for one simple reason. He thinks you are going to kill him. If you convey compassion, or fear, or hesitation, or anything other than a hateful yearning and readiness to empty your magazine into his freaking face, he will not believe you…and he will test you. Sure, you have been to the Spiderman school of gunfighting…or worse, to the law abiding at all costs Adam 12 school of gunfighting, and you know all about “passing the test”. Great for you. But the real bad guy will be different than that overweight ex-internal affairs guy that taught your class. You cannot fake this.  You must come to terms with killing him. I dare say you must be quite comfortable with the idea. The bad guy knows all about bullshit, and he will see right through yours.

How do we fix that? Simple. Go out and kill something! This is usually where the Animal Friends and Sierra Club types leave the room. I have hunted men and I have hunted animals…and at the point of decision…there is no difference. Get your legal hunting license…go out into the woods…find a nice little Bambi-esque creature…and blow its brains out. You can even eat it afterwards if you like, which is not what you want to do with the bad guy. But I digress. Killing begins in the mind. If you can kill in your mind, the rest is easy. I wish I had said that, but it was Jones in the Hunted. Nonetheless, he got it right.

Why all the talk of killing? After all…this is a discussion on dialog!!

True…but it is a dialog that you will not be able to fake unless the "killer" you are pointing in on is a big fat pussy. Learn to kill, so you can do it if you have to, and so you don’t need to fake it when you do. Moving on.

Next, is being convincing about your intent. You will not convey that with your safety on, finger off the trigger, and at low ready. Yeah…I know…”liabilitieeeeeeeee”.

I will say this right now. Get that crap out of your brain. More people have been hurt because they are afraid of getting in trouble than because they were not. If you are afraid of getting sued or getting in trouble otherwise, I will tell you this right now. Leave your pistol for target shooting and carry a whistle. The guys hammering on the drum of liability-fear have probably never killed anyone, nor had anyone try to kill them.

Point in – finger on if you feel like it – and get your war face on!

Finger on – finger off?  If you are a spastic, tremor-prone, and jumpier than a long-tailed cat in a room full of rocking chairs – keep your finger off the trigger until the last minute. Everyone else…finger touching the trigger. That position…pointed in, finger on the trigger is how I took down…alive I may add…contract killers, gang members, robbers, drive by shooters, and a myriad of other armed and dangerous types. They did not yet have a weapon visible, and had not made any sudden moves…nor anything beforehand that would cause me to assume anything.

They surrendered because they knew if they did not, I would kill them dead and go get a cheeseburger.

If you want to keep your finger off the trigger until the last possible moment, go ahead.  But don't expect me to validate that position.  My finger was on the trigger, and shall remain thus. There are far more trigger management methods than OF, and SHOT FIRED.  Please review "Fear And The Trigger Slap"

What did I say to them? Well…in all honesty…a man with a pissed off face, pointing a Glock at you, with his finger on the trigger speaks volumes. Even the deaf would understand.

I said, “DON’T MOVE”. Sometimes there was a “F*CKING” inserted between don’t and move, but that is added as needed and not a requirement.

If they moved, they got shot. Simple. Most of the time they didn’t move. That stops the action. You are not there to have a meaningful discussion with them…to get into their minds, nor to give evidence to what a great orator you are. Nobody cares. Your job is to drive the fear of the death you are serving up deep into their black souls and that cannot be faked.

“DON’T MOVE”. And its OK to sound guttural and evil. In fact…it is helpful.  You are commanding stillness and not movement.  If you command stillness and they move...well, your path is clear young student.  If you command movement (such as "Show me Your Hands", or "Drop the Gun") you will prepare for and expect to see movement, and then have to decide whether that movement is compliance or a counter attack. 

That is important.  More to follow.